I believe that many of us involved in ADHD coaching and ADHD advocacy have an emotional component. Many people that have ADHD, realize when they’re an adult – that they themselves struggled at some point in their life with ADHD. For those of you that struggled and have children, there’s a good chance that at least one of your children struggles with ADHD.
I personally have four children with ADHD. The youngest child has struggled the most with those impairments, as well as a co-existing disorder of dyslexia. Quite honestly, I believe that ADHD has been the most impacting to his success.
Why is it so important to understand how our kids are individually affected by an ADHD diagnosis?
That last bullet point is one that I will expand on in this blog. Their confidence level must be at a level that allows our kids with ADHD to ask questions and refuse suggestions of others when those do not fit into what they know will lead to academic success and achieving goals.
Here is an example: A teen needs tutoring and reaches out to a math teacher from high school. After explaining the reasons for not wanting to tutor on the campus of the school, he offers to meet with the teen at a local Panera Bread for tutoring. The teen agrees, and the two meet up at Panera Bread for tutoring. As the teens coach, I totally disagree with this decision because of the distractibility and lack of focus of this teen when placed in an environment such as this.
So, what is the take away for the teen? He needs to be able to pull from the list of areas of his knowledge base – areas of weaknesses that will not allow him to be in a confusing setting where he will be distracted. In addition, he needs to believe that self ADHD advocating is not being disrespectful. Yes, this teacher is an adult with experience and knowledge. However, the teen must believe that he has the same in regards to his understanding of himself and his needs. He needs to continue to believe that standing up for what he needs, based on his disability and voicing that it’s not a statement of disrespect to his elder teacher. It reflects a young man who understands his disability complete with strengths and weaknesses.
We must continue to realize that our kids with ADHD must understand themselves in order to effectively advocate with respect. The results? An adult with a healthy self-esteem who will be successful and find passion in everything he does!
To understand more about what ADHD advocacy is, and how it can dramatically help your child, please contact me directly for a free consultancy session. On our call, you will have the opportunity to share the challenges that your child is facing, and get instant feedback on critical next steps to help both you and your child. You can contact me directly by clicking here!
A little about the author and founder of ADD Advocate, Karen Lowry: I am a certified ADHD Coach. ADHD advocacy is my passion. There are so many school support challenges facing our children, that knowing your rights as a parent have never been more crucial. Effective ADHD coaching depends on effective advocacy for our kids. Remember, if you should ever have any questions about anything regarding school support, or just understanding about ADHD, IEP programs, 504 plans, etc….