Parents Fighting to Stay Visible with Their Childs ADHD IEP Team

Parents Fighting to Stay Visible with Their Childs ADHD IEP TeamStaying visible with your child’s ADHD IEP Team / the child study team is always a constant battle. The parent or parents are always being told that they know their child best.  Expectations of the parents are many, including the need to control behavior, insure homework completion, and demonstrate respect to teachers.  But when the child has an IEP in school, we as parents expect the individual education plan to be followed as devised in the child study team meeting.

The parent or parents go to the meeting of IEP eligibility.  They know all of the struggles of their child with ADHD and know in general what should be done for support.  Of course, the parents do not know exactly what IEP accommodations or IEP modifications to apply to the IEP for greatest efficacy and goal achievement.  But they do know how ADHD affects their child, the child’s personality, strengths, and desires. The parents need suggestions from the experts on the child study team.  They are a full member of the team, but why don’t they feel like that?

Here are the following statements made in a meeting while developing an IEP or deciding on IEP eligibility:

  • The child’s grades are too high for support.
  • The child could do better if he/she tried harder.
  • The child needs to speak up when he doesn’t understand.
  • This child is lazy.
  • This child gets it when he/she wants to get it.


Parents want to respect the words of the professionals.  But at the same time, they know the words they hear are not correct all the time.  And they don’t depict the child who they know.  They want support, but they are being told that their child with ADHD could control their disability.

In addition, follow up and communication is not always complete. Here are some items that can be a result of this and promote the need to tweaking the child’s IEP:

  • Failing grades.
  • Missed assignments.
  • Behaviors that are punished with detentions.
  • Lateness to class.
  • Late with assignments and projects.


The parent or parents on the team needs full disclosure to everything happening in the classrooms, in order to be able to participate in tweaking and changing the IEP to allow success.

The parent or parents can become visible by always keeping in mind that they really DO know their child best.  Being a part of a team means that everyone participates, contributes, and respects each other and especially the child with medical disability.

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